Joanna Choi Kalbus at 84: Telling Her Story of Survival and Resilience

Joanna Choi Kalbus: A Journey of Resilience at 84

At 84 years old, Joanna Choi Kalbus has defied conventional expectations by penning her first memoir, The Boat Not Taken. In a poignant narrative, she recounts the escape from North Korea she undertook with her mother, chronicling their harrowing transition to a new life in the United States. This memoir, released in May 2025, serves not only as a tribute to her late mother but also as a testament to the undying human spirit.

As we celebrate Asian American Native Hawaiian and Pacific Islander (AANHPI) Heritage Month, Kalbus's story resonates with many, evoking themes of resilience, identity, and motherhood. Through her words, she seeks to bridge personal experiences with broader societal narratives, inviting readers to reflect on the profound impact global events have on individual lives.

A Memoir Born from Grief and Reflection

Kalbus began writing after the death of her mother in 1996, feeling a deep sense of loss for her family's historian. "Heaven's no! I didn't even know there was a genre called memoir," she admits during an interview. Initially, her writing came from journaling as a means to cope and connect with the memories of her mother. Her dedication transformed into a detailed exploration of their shared history, serving as both a memoir and a poignant act of mourning.

Wisdom Over Age: Encouragement for Aspiring Writers

For those contemplating embarking on their writing journeys, Kalbus's insights are invaluable. She notes, "To me, age doesn’t matter. In sports, age does matter but with advanced age, we have wisdom." Emphasizing the importance of community, she encourages aspiring authors to seek support through writing groups and educational opportunities—a reminder that storytelling often thrives through collaboration.

Universal Themes in Personal Narratives

Kalbus emphasizes that while her memoir is a personal account, it encapsulates universal themes that resonate across cultures and generations. The narrative highlights how familial bonds endure through adversity, and how shared experiences can foster empathy among people from different walks of life. This notion of empathy, a central theme in her book, challenges readers to consider their own life journeys and the events that shape them.

Reflecting on Cherished Memories

Amid the struggles of immigration and adaptation, Kalbus shares tender memories from her time in America. One such moment recalls bathing with her mother in an old mansion. "To be submerged in the deep bathtub together, scrubbing each other's backs was akin to nowadays, going to a spa," she reflects. These memories serve as a healing balm in her writing, showcasing the intimate bond that transcended their harsh circumstances.

As Kalbus gears up for her Author Talk on May 27th at 4 PM ET, her story stands as a beacon of hope for many in the senior community and beyond. Through her memoir, she encourages all to embrace their stories regardless of age, reminding us that it’s never too late to share our truths and connect with others.

In a world where the narrative often sidelines older voices, Kalbus’s journey underscores the value of senior living, whether in community spaces, assisted living facilities, or independent living environments. Just as she found her voice through grief and reflection, many seniors can discover their paths in supportive settings that promote storytelling and connection, enriching their later stages of life.